Letting go of a grudge :)

Hey heys! So I'm back alot quicker than I thought :P but sure, what harm!

So this one is a little random, I was just thinking about grudges lately, and I really am the type of person to hold one, but I can't help it :) If I have an argument or fall out with somebody I will always have this held against them, unless they apologize. I got to thinking that this is really the wrong way to be, forgive and forget is going to be my new way of thinking. Why? Because at the end of the day, life is way too short!

So what is a grudge? 

Not this thing :P

A grudge is a 'persistent feeling of ill will or resentment resulting from a past insult or injury'. Basically it is the act of hanging on to intense anger or dislike for someone based on something they wrongly did to you in the past. So, it could be a teacher that ate the head off you for not doing the right homework, a work partner who pushed you too far in work, or made some smart comment about your new pencil skirt or silk tie, it could be the ex who broke your heart or cheated, your partners ex causing you hassle, a sales person who keeps calling to your house, the list is absolutely endless! As I said above, I am so bad at holding grudges, but what's the point at the end of the day? Your just doing mental damage to yourself and causing yourself unnecessary stress. 

Dis someone hurt you intentionally in the past? Do they deliberately cause you trouble? Do you feel like they are 'out to get you' or compete with you socially? All you can do is be the bigger person, move on and forgive them. Sometimes we confuse the ability to hate someone with the inability to understand them. These people are obviously hurt themselves, insecure, jealous or angry. Just like me and you they make mistakes, and we have to learn to forgive them. You're not just doing better by you but better by them too.

I hope this helps you guys :) There really is no point in holding a grudge, just learn to forgive and forget :) 

Thanks for reading :D 

Sandy.S

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How to deal with annoying people :)

Hey everyone :) So recently I've been so busy with my new YouTube channel and very busy socially! I can't really complain, however, I have had some small issues the past week dealing with interfering/annoying people, its been dramatic to say the least :) but I got over it :) I said I'd write this blog to help some people cope if you ever have this problem yourselves :D remember, never panic!

 Ever faced people who are annoying and '#*$#' stirrers :P  You feel like they do little things just to annoy you? Of course you have!  I’m sure everyone faces such people in their life at some stage. It’s okay when we have to face them just once or twice, but sometimes we might have to deal with them repeatedly, which can be so annoying, right? They could be classmates, somebody you work with or  your boss, family, friends, ex boy/girlfriends or your partners ex’s. In such cases, we have to learn how to deal with them :)

One of the most important things I have learned is not to debate with them, leave them be! Whatever you say, they can find 10 different reasons to back up whatever reason they have for annoying you. The discussion will just become negative, and you will just be giving into their need for arguments.

Be clear on what you will tolerate and not tolerate and make sure you stick with it. You have your own personal space and it’s your up to you to protect it. By drawing the boundaries, even if just mentally, you are clearer of the kind of behaviors to expect from others. If you don’t do so, it’s easy for you to be pushed over by others, especially since such people tend not to be conscious of personal boundaries. You’ll end up feeling intimidated and shrinking in a corner, feeling miserable…nobody wants that!  

I know it is easier said than done but to ignore them is one of the best things you can do. When you reply to them, you give them something to continue with. If you just ignore, they don’t have a choice but to ignore you and move on. This is what I did and I'm fine :) It's just about not giving in to their pettiness.

Most important of all, get on with life as if none of this happened :) When a person tries to bring you down, it just means you are obviously above them! Unless they are thick headed they will most likely leave you alone when you ignore them :) You should take it as a compliment, that somebody is so affected by how great your life is they want to ruin it :) 

Hope y'all took some advice from this and it helps you with whatever problematic person you are dealing with :) :P It certainly helped me! ;) 

Until next time :) 

Sandy.S

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