"We Were on a break!!!"

Hi guys, so again I'm back with a rather odd one :) I have been talking to a lot of people recently about this and seen or heard a lot of people asking about it :) I have decided I am going to write my opinion on it and hopefully give advice to those caught in an emotional roller coaster because of it :) 

So, what is the term 'to take a break' about, in a relationship? Is it like a holiday, or vacation from them? Do you see other people? How long does it last? etc. ( All I think of is Ross from Friends :p) 

To be honest I can't exactly answer all of that for you, because it depends on the person you are with. All I can say is, as soon as your partner says these words to you, you run, and keep running!!

Based on conversations with people I have discovered that the person who says this is just looking for a cowardly way to tell you that they want to see other people for a while and then snap their fingers at you when they want you back. It is such an Americanized term for ending or 'pausing' a relationship. They will use terms like 'It's not you, it's me'...'I just want to focus on my studies' or 'I need to discover myself' or some crap like that. I personally think that people need to grow a pair and say what they really mean. We're not in some American High school drama!

If two people are in a long, committed relationship, it may be because of stress or issues with marriage or whatever. Sometimes the person can need a break from the other person, just to breathe for a while. After all, absence makes the heart grow stronger. But still, maybe go for a long walk or shopping or whatever hobby it is you do. If you need longer, maybe you need to reconsider this relationship, why make both of you miserable and stressed? 

When it is a relationship that has only been going on for a few weeks and one says to the other "I think we need a break!" It's basically a cowards way for saying 'sorry, I'm not really sure if I still like you' and they want to see other people without having to do the awkward breaking up. This way they can say maybe you could get back together sometime and they won't feel as bad about it as they would a break up.They may even suggest being friends with benefits if they can't get anything off anyone else. Playing you like a puppet on a string. I knew a story, where the person wanted a break, but wanted to get back with the other person,when they were older and settle down. I was thinking..."What??" Basically she wanted to keep him on hold and wait for her...?? I laugh at people that think this way, either you want someone or not. Sin è/Simple as :) If you are in this situation, get away from it as fast as possible. I guarantee as soon as you do and meet someone that is worth your time, that other person will appear straight away again trying to cause hassle :) 

I see these issues every now and then on problem pages or 'Dear Deirdre' or wherever and I feel so sorry for the person, because you think you are in this great relationship and someone says the 'b' word as soon as things get a bit rocky. It can be so upsetting and you will feel so insecure and worthless, but just remind yourself it is THEIR loss. not yours! More than likely it's just what they think is a polite way of dumping you. You will move on realize that maybe that sweet guy you sit beside in the lab everyday or that pretty girl behind the till is someone that will accept you and treat you for who you are :) And if you are someone considering taking a break, for your own sake and theirs, just end it. 

Hope this helps :) 

Feel free to comment and share your opinions :) 

Sandy.S

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How to get over a broken heart ?! Keep Reading :)

Hey again :D I know some of you that know me might think this is a random thing for me to be writing, since I am obviously not somebody that is going through the above title, but that doesn't mean I'm no stranger to it :) 

Yes I've had my fair share of it, from stupid crushes to flings that didn't come to anything and by god it can literally feel like you're broken into pieces and everyday you wake up wondering did that actually happen...

Well unfortunately yes it did, and that fact will wash over you like those ice nominations that were all the rage not too long ago...

No matter who it was that did the heart breaking, it's no easy thing to get through, no matter what age, seven with that boy/girl that gave you gum on the bus, or 45 with your husband/wife who left you with three kids. 

I'm no Dr. Phil, but I'm just here to help you by giving some tips to ease that pain. 

If only Nurofen could come out with a heartbreak remedy eh?? Unfortunately they don't but chocolate is something that might help a bit :D! Chocolate has been proven to release Endorphins, which are hormones that basically make you feel happy! I'm not saying go obese with it, but there's no harm in going to your local and buying a few tubs of ben and jerry's, some galaxy(personal favourite) and some cocoa. Take a day off work if needs be, light the fire and watch some crappy chickflicks, (he's just not that into you is a fave, or Sex and the City! :P) 

Go on to your facebook and delete them from your life, I don't care how you're going to still be friends or any of that crap, you can be friends after you have allowed yourself time to heal! There's literally no point wearing shoes that gave you a heap of blisters over and over again is there? Well imagine he/she are the shoe...delete all pictures off any social networks and phones. It's extremely harsh but necessary.

Go out with your friends and get drunk, I know alcohol can cause you to be extremely emotional, and you will probably spend your night crying to the door of the toilet, but do it anyway! Why? Because it helps!! First comes the tears, then the anger and then after a while the indifference :) Meet a guy if you want to, whenever you are ready! But I would advise enjoying singledom after a break up, it will build up your independence and confidence again :) 

You will feel the need to stalk the ex and any of their current misses or misters, do it!! By all means! Show them to your friends, family etc and have a good rant about how ugly they are, I know most people would say out of sight out of mind, but it's hilarious rating the new persons nose or thighs :P Im not saying do it every 5 minutes, but do it enough to make yourself feel better, sure, we all do it!!

Go shopping or get yourself a new hobby :D I mean anything even pottery making!! (you might meet a Patrick Swayze :P ) Buy that sexy Little black dress or for the men, that aftershave :P you saw in town, who cares if rent is due! Go get your hair or makeup done and feel great!! 

Most importantly of all, learn to trust again, they aren't all out to break your heart :) Some are just not suited and that's all there is to it !! 

And p.s, this isn't going to happen overnight so don't expect miracles :) 

made for heartbreaks :)

I hope I can be of some assistance to anybody suffering this disease :) :) 

Happy reading :D 

Sandy.S

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Halloween Time :)

Hey everyone :) 

Sorry again that it has been SO long, but I'm back just in time for Halloween :) 

Because we have less than a week to go, I've decided to only do one tutorial, so I'm going to show some pictures below of looks I have done and hope ye can help me make up my mind which to show ;)

Creeeeepy doll :)

Disney Witch :)

Old man :) 

zombie :)

Demon/Ghoul

Cleopatras Ghost :)

Cleopatra :)

This is all of the options :) Please help me choose! lol :) 

Thanks for reading :D

Sandy.S

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Penneys/Primark Haul for Paris!!!

Hey guys!!!! Ok so I know it has been an age since I wrote last I apologise :( But last weekend I went to Paris...the most Romantic place on earth with my lovely Boyfriend...it was amazing :) We only went for the weekend but got to see some beautiful sights, the Eiffel tower, Notre dame, Montmartre and of course the Champs Elysee :D (my french teacher would kill me for not including my accents, but anyway :P ) We had a great time and it was definitely a holiday to remember :) 

Stephen & I :) Champs Elysee

So, I knew I was going to be going to one of the most fashionable places in the world so I had to look good all of the time (I'm sure poor Stephen got fed up of me taking 3 hours to get ready every day :P). So I said I would do a small haul the day before I went to Dublin, typical me leaving things until last minute! I decided to go to Penneys seen as they have their Autumn collection in now, it has amazing clothes at extremely affordable prices :O Some of which I will show you below :) 

This top is so comfy!...I wore it flying out with a pair of jeggings and uggs and my leather jacket :) I think this is a great buy, its flattering, it can be dressed up or dressed down, and the horizontal stripes flatter a curvy body :) At 10 € this was my favourite bargain! 

This skirt is soooo pretty!! Its a wine/burgundy coloured velour skater skirt. This is ideal for the season we are in now, it can be worn with a shirt like the one I bought which I show next,pair of tights and pumps, or a wooly top with thick tights and boots for winter! It is longer than the skater skirts Penneys recently sold and has a lovely velour feel :) I adore this, it came in black also but I said I'd be daring and get this colour :) 

I love this shirt, it's really classy looking :) I feel like a real lady when I wear this :D It's a very light material so I would advise a light top worn inside it :p I wore this with both my black and burgundy skater skirt and felt so comfortable in it too! It can be worn on a night out or to a job interview or work :) Whichever you prefer!

This top was a very last minute buy, but I'm so glad I bought it :D I got it in the Penneys in Dublin just as a top to keep me warm incase the weather was a bit dodgy in Paris(which it was :P) It's just a plain black long sleeved cashmere sweater but I teemed this with a gold necklace and skater skirt and it was so comfy :) and kept me warm, happy days! :D 

This was my biggest bargain :D This is a plain red skater dress that cost me just €6 !! I saw it on my way up to the till and I had to grab it :D The only problem is it's very short so I would have to wear it with a skirt underneath to be on the safe side :P But I have this problem with alot of Penney's dresses because I'm about 5'10 so, if they want to make a tall section anytime soon I'll be delighted :P 

I love these two, I wore these both nearly every day :D The necklace doesn't feel too heavy or irritating and I've been meaning to get these for AGES, the bag is big enough to fit phone, purse, passport and a camera :P and a metro map as well actually lol! The necklace was only €5 and the bag was on sale for €3 ! and they do last a while! :) 

And last but not least the Makeup :D The two lipsticks were a present I got from my lovely sister, they are both fuschia shades and I absolutely love them! I think I wore them every day as well. I want to go back and buy some neutral shades like beige and nude :D These lipsticks were so moisturising as well and lasted all day, even with the many smooches with my boyfriend lol ;) The foundation I was a bit skeptical about however I am very impressed with this one :) I would save if for day coverage however :) because it has light covering but I am still quite happy with it :) The mascara and eye liner I find are ok, not great but I do like the brush on the mascara :) The eye liner comes out as more of a grey rather than black :/ But i dipped it into a gel liner pot and it worked fine :D 

Ok guys that's all I got in my haul :D I will be back vlogging soon, whenever my camera gets fixed :( sigh. I shall leave ye and love ye with a few pictures we took in le Gay Pareeee :D 

Stephen and myself :D <3

View from the Hotel :D

Eiffel Tower :) 

On the Champs Elysee :D 

Thanks for reading guys :D 

Until next time!!

Sandy.S

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How to have the perfect lasting relationship :)

Hey everyone :) So this is something completely random :D But I have decided over the last couple of days to write a blog about how to have a good and loving relationship :)

love doing this :)

I know that nobody is perfect, everyone has their faults, but when your in a good relationship, that significant other should be able to make you feel like you are perfect, even just to him/her :) Everybody wants to have that one person that makes them weak at the knees, that they can be friends with as well as lovers, and most importantly that makes them feel like they are the luckiest people on the solar system, just because they are loved by them :) 

 Even when you're crazy about someone, it can often be hard to know if he or she is "right" for you. How do you know you won't feel differently in a year? Ten years? The rest of your Life? Deciding if you can commit to someone is a very personal determination. How do you know that he or she are the one? Here are some points to help you decide :) 

Everyone wants to be this happy years later with each other :)

You can tell them something you would never have told anybody else :) I don't mean something you say after one too many pints! But something you feel like you can tell them just so you can be closer :) Telling them these things means you can trust them :)

love talking over a good ol' cuppa :)

You can let them see you in your moments of weakness :) For me, a few months back I had been feeling a little low about life, just over financial worries and stress in college and I was literally at my all time low. I just found that apart from my family, the only one who understood was my boyfriend, he was there the whole time, he came with me to the doctor etc and it made me appreciate him so so much. I realized that he could be my rock for any obstacle we faced in the future.

A hug is the BEST cure :)

You won't want to change them :) There might be small things that irritate you, they switch the channel to soccer or insist on wearing certain items of clothing (for me its chinos :P) But you still love them, plain and simple. 

He loves his soccer :p

They should make you laugh :) I really think this is one of the most important ones :D Laughter is one of life's simplest pleasures and an absolute tonic. My boyfriend can always make me laugh no matter what :D I think it's one of the key ingredients to a healthy life if not just a healthy relationship :)

He always makes me laugh, especially with his attempt at dancing to 'Galway Girl' :P

You should be able to overcome any obstacle :) This could be anything, from a long distance relationship to financial worries to a crazy ex. You just know that you'll both get over it and it will all be worth it in the end. Every couple faces speed bumps throughout their relationship the key is to get over them together :) My boyfriend and I have dealt with all of these problems in the last while, especially the last one, but we still wake up every morning the same happy couple :D The long distance problem worked out easily, finances were cleared up and the psycho ex is finally out of the picture :)

Us out one night :) loved this night :) we literally never fight on nights out! 

The most important one of all, is that you should be able to see a future with them:) Obviously, how can you keep trying to make a relationship last if you can't even see yourself with them this time next week, next month or even next year! You have to be able to communicate with them, discuss your plans for the future and make sure to include your partner. You want to go travelling? Start making plans for the two of you to go? You want to move in together into a new apartment ? Make sure its suitable for both you and your partner. You have to think for two people and not just yourself :) 

Love the dress, ;) lol

Make sure you can trust each other, communicate with each other and love each other :) These are the keys to living together for a long time contentedly :) 

I love him :) My Boyfriend Stephen <3 ! Xxxxx

Hope this helps y'all :)

Thanks for reading guys :D

Sandy.S

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