How to have the perfect lasting relationship :)

Hey everyone :) So this is something completely random :D But I have decided over the last couple of days to write a blog about how to have a good and loving relationship :)

love doing this :)

I know that nobody is perfect, everyone has their faults, but when your in a good relationship, that significant other should be able to make you feel like you are perfect, even just to him/her :) Everybody wants to have that one person that makes them weak at the knees, that they can be friends with as well as lovers, and most importantly that makes them feel like they are the luckiest people on the solar system, just because they are loved by them :) 

 Even when you're crazy about someone, it can often be hard to know if he or she is "right" for you. How do you know you won't feel differently in a year? Ten years? The rest of your Life? Deciding if you can commit to someone is a very personal determination. How do you know that he or she are the one? Here are some points to help you decide :) 

Everyone wants to be this happy years later with each other :)

You can tell them something you would never have told anybody else :) I don't mean something you say after one too many pints! But something you feel like you can tell them just so you can be closer :) Telling them these things means you can trust them :)

love talking over a good ol' cuppa :)

You can let them see you in your moments of weakness :) For me, a few months back I had been feeling a little low about life, just over financial worries and stress in college and I was literally at my all time low. I just found that apart from my family, the only one who understood was my boyfriend, he was there the whole time, he came with me to the doctor etc and it made me appreciate him so so much. I realized that he could be my rock for any obstacle we faced in the future.

A hug is the BEST cure :)

You won't want to change them :) There might be small things that irritate you, they switch the channel to soccer or insist on wearing certain items of clothing (for me its chinos :P) But you still love them, plain and simple. 

He loves his soccer :p

They should make you laugh :) I really think this is one of the most important ones :D Laughter is one of life's simplest pleasures and an absolute tonic. My boyfriend can always make me laugh no matter what :D I think it's one of the key ingredients to a healthy life if not just a healthy relationship :)

He always makes me laugh, especially with his attempt at dancing to 'Galway Girl' :P

You should be able to overcome any obstacle :) This could be anything, from a long distance relationship to financial worries to a crazy ex. You just know that you'll both get over it and it will all be worth it in the end. Every couple faces speed bumps throughout their relationship the key is to get over them together :) My boyfriend and I have dealt with all of these problems in the last while, especially the last one, but we still wake up every morning the same happy couple :D The long distance problem worked out easily, finances were cleared up and the psycho ex is finally out of the picture :)

Us out one night :) loved this night :) we literally never fight on nights out! 

The most important one of all, is that you should be able to see a future with them:) Obviously, how can you keep trying to make a relationship last if you can't even see yourself with them this time next week, next month or even next year! You have to be able to communicate with them, discuss your plans for the future and make sure to include your partner. You want to go travelling? Start making plans for the two of you to go? You want to move in together into a new apartment ? Make sure its suitable for both you and your partner. You have to think for two people and not just yourself :) 

Love the dress, ;) lol

Make sure you can trust each other, communicate with each other and love each other :) These are the keys to living together for a long time contentedly :) 

I love him :) My Boyfriend Stephen <3 ! Xxxxx

Hope this helps y'all :)

Thanks for reading guys :D

Sandy.S

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A nasty surprise...

Hey everyone !!!

Ok, so this blog is about something nastyyyy :( A few days ago, I noticed an irritating red lump forming on my lower left eyelid, it began to get itchy and constantly felt like I had something in my eye, what was it?...

A sty of course :( 

So what is a sty, and how is it formed?

 A sty is a tender, painful red bump that is located at the base of an eyelash under or inside the eyelid. It is formed by an infection in the sebaceous glands or a hair follicle in the eyelid. The medical term for it is Hordeolum 

A sty occurs when the eye glands of the eyelid that lubricate the eyeball become infected, the infection will occur if these glands become clogged. 

Symptoms include, watery eyes, redness, itching and tenderness. If it is severe (which I have :( ) it will develop a yellow head after a few days and yellow pus will drain away from it. It will feel better once it ruptures, but you should not burst it yourself as this causes the infection to spread around the eye. 

Makeup can be a huge cause of a sty, especially if you share it with others. Do NOT wear makeup during the infection as it will only make it worse AND infect your brushes or makeup applicators. It's actually advised that you throw out any brushes or makeup used just before or during the infection if applied anywhere near the eye. :( ! 

Some remedies for a sty are warm compresses, a towel dipped into hot water, or a favourite of mine, a warm teabag!Press these lightly to your sty for 10-15 minuts 3 or 4 times a day. This will cause the liquid to drain from the sty quicker. If the sty is persistent, you should go to your doctor, and they can prescribe antibiotics or drain it for you. I have even used a wedding ring to bless it 3 times! 

Sties are nasty things, and very uncomfortable. This was defenitely one of the worst I have gotten in my life, I couldn't keep my eye open one day ! :( It's also extremely embarrassing to be out in public with one lol !:( 

Thankfully mine is getting better and on the mend :) though hopefully I won't get one again for a long long time!!

Hope this helps you if you get one, or think you may have one, though I wouldn't wish it on an enemy!! 

Thanks for reading :)

Sandy.S

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Keep Calm :)

Hey again everybody!

This time I decided to write something different;  coping with stress, as I felt its something I've had to cope with myself in the last month or so. So here are some hints and tips that I find helpful when I feel under pressure, hope you can all relate to them and find them useful. Just remember to stay calm and that things can only get better :)

So what exactly is stress?

Stress is the body's way of responding to any kind of demand in life. There are so many types of stress, from worrying about small things like, where did I leave my phone? to How am I going to keep food on the table? 

Personally I am the type to worry about the smallest little things, like what people think of me, or what if my clothes aren't nice on me, such stupid little things to worry about when I think about it! But I often worry about the future as well, where will I be, what job will I have, will I be secure? Stress can really depend on alot of things, your lifestyle, your age, even your gender! Thankfully I managed to get past my teenage years but they can be so stressful to both boys and girls, worrying about their appearance and whether they'll be liked in society. All I can advise to any young people is just be yourself, no matter what you do, feel or look like. You're made that way for a reason. It took me a long time to realise this, but it's true. 

If you are stressed about your appearance, look at the video for Christina Aguilera's song 'Beautiful' and just think, she wrote that song for a reason, even somebody as successful and amazing as her had doubts about herself. Each person is their own worst critic. You just have to look at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself you are beautiful inside and out! 

When I get stressed, I feel down, I find it hard to put a smile on my face. Because I'm usually such a bubbly happy person, EVERYBODY notices when I'm upset, which is a good thing really, because then I realise no matter what, I'll never be alone!  This is a very important thing to realise when you are upset, DO NOT be afraid to speak to somebody, its so unhealthy to keep it bottled up. 

When I get really tense about something, maybe money worries or an exam, I always feel muscle pain in the back of my neck and shoulders, sometimes I even feel sick in my stomach. Some people I know experience insomnia, headaches, even shortness of breath. In worst case scenarios it can lead to a mental breakdown. 

If your feeling stressed, you should never let it get that far, always remember there IS a light at the end of the tunnel. 

What do I do when I am stressed?

When I do feel stressed, I make sure I tell somebody about it, luckily I'm blessed with a great bunch of family and friends to get advice from. I always feel so much better after I tell someone what is worrying me. After all a problem shared is a problem halved! 

I also like to listen to feel good music, yes even the really cheesy ones! Some songs that help me are Don't worry be happy by Bobby McFerrin (a personal favourite since I was a child) One Republic- Good life, Eliza Doolitle- pack it up, The lighthouse family- High and of course Don't stop believing( which helped me through my exams in secondary school) 

One of the best cures I find for stress is a really long walk, somewhere peaceful, wether your alone or with somebody because it can really clear the mind! You could also take up a new hobby, maybe an adventure sport, go to the gym, or even join a local book club or cinema club to meet new people and  help take your mind off things! There are endless possibilites! 

Ok so everyone, I hope this helps if you are finding yourself under pressure, please don't let it get to you too much, as I said above talk to people, find a new hobby, go for walks, anything to help take your mind off things! 

Until next time, 

happy blog reading :) 

Sandy.s

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